Levelers Vs Limiters

Theory:

As you’re on the quest to find your purpose in life, you will face obstacles. These obstacles are people who are essentially limiters. Their purpose in life is to stop you from achieving yours. They’ve gone as far as they’re willing to go, some even love and care for you, they may very well have your best interest in mind but that’s the problem…

Their mind is limited and a limited mind is a selfish mind, a stubborn mind. They’d rather see you suffer next to them than flourish without them. Here are 3 ways you can find and handle the limiters in your life.

How to spot a Limiter:

• Not in the sense of life seesawing each other’s balance. Instead, if you’re going through something and they’re around, they sometimes have a strange sense of joy DURING your misery. They’ll be there but not to lift you back up, they’ll just be – there.

2.) They try to put fear into your ambitions.

• Ever told someone you trusted an idea, business, or just something you were excited about pursuing? Only to have them not shut it down but speak fear into it? The “what can go wrongs”, the “think smaller”, the “are you sure”?

3.) They keep you in draining conversations or situations.

• Limiters steer conversations toward negativity, gossip, or problems you’ve already outgrown. They often can’t see you passed the level that they met you at. Instead, they attempt to anchor you to old cycles, but you know —a ship is set to sail. 🚢

How to handle a Limiter:

1.) Protect your growth by limiting their access.

• A limiter’s influence only works when they can get close to your thoughts, plans, and insecurities. Limit what you share. Don’t let them get a front row view to your goals. Lastly, have more discernment and self-respect for who you surround yourself with.

2.) Stay rooted in your direction.

• Limiter’s project their ceilings onto your sky. When they question or try to shrink your ideas, don’t debate or defend. Hold your direction steady. You must develop and hone the ability to stay yourself even when someone else can’t handle it.

3.) Release the version of them that can’t grow with you.

• Some people were aligned with who you were, not who you are, or becoming. Letting go doesn’t always mean cutting off…sometimes it means detaching from the role they used to play in your life. It’s natural to feel guilty if you really care about them, it can almost feel like abandonment…but it’s not. You’re refusing to abandon or lose yourself.

Solo Leveling or Nah?

My last thing to say is, build around people who expand you. For a LEVELER, the opposite of limiter is an EXPANDER – someone who isn’t threatened by your evolution. Surround yourself with people who challenge you, celebrate you, and push you toward your next level. Your environment becomes your momentum. Be wataaaaa my friend. 🌊